Now, it is not lost on me that most people do not have mean intentions when they speak. But, let's face it, it happens. For me personally, the one I hate the most is this one. SO HAVE YOU ALWAYS BEEN SMALL? (in regards to my fit physique). Let me explain why small fit people hate this question. It basically invalidates everything I have done or accomplished in regards to my fitness level. I take it as if you are saying.... WELL, YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN SMALL SO IT REALLY DOESN'T COUNT. Never mind that I am 37 and have had two kids. Don't take that away from me please.
This one was great. I was talking to a well-meaning colleague about my first place win last year in my first bikini show. He then says...."IF YOU LOSE, IT'S BECAUSE EVERYONE LOOKED BETTER THAN YOU, IF YOU WIN IT'S BECAUSE EVERYONE ELSE LOOKED LIKE CRAP". Did you just say that? So what you are saying is... if I lose its because they were just in amazing shape, but if I win it's because they looked like crap, not because I was in amazing shape. I love this one.
There are always those who like to imply things as well. Comments to others like (in regards to the time I spend in the gym) I just don't have that kind of time to take away from my family. UHH Seriously? Did you just say that?
I jokingly share these with you. I never take anything anyone says too seriously. They mean well in most cases and those that don't are just jealous. Never let anyone take anything away from you. You are in control of your accomplishments, not them. Most people don't know how to process other's successes. This is especially true, if it is in an area where they may have struggled before. Just remain confident and encourage others, even in the midst of moments when you think, "DID YOU JUST SAY THAT?"
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